SET MEANINGFUL GOALS
“Set goals that are so clear and concrete that you know what needs to be done. Formulate goals in a way that makes sense to your life. Decide to do the job. Break down goals into habits that reside in your everyday life, to habits you enjoy. That way, your goal becomes present in your life now, instead of sometime in the future. Because "later" never comes."
When you set goals, you give structure to what is not yet there. When you set goals with your brain, you set the path towards your goal that generates the energy needed to reach it. To set meaningful goals, is to set goals with the whole brain and not just with the logical and rational part. By creating a clear and powerful future picture of what is important to perfect and matching it with something you see every day, you get the inner power to wake up, reach for and take you all the way. You can say that when the heart gets moved, your true motivation awakens. When you are aware of your why, your purpose, you will not give up when you face adversity.
When you can formulate meaningful goals, you also bring other people with you in a positive and uplifting way, making whole-hearted commitment contagious. When you gather around the decision, you support each other and grow as people.
If you set your goal so that you are confident of performing and you should make yourself the prerequisites for the best possible health along the way, that we should feel good that we get what feels meaningful.
"It's not the destination itself, but the journey that counts," mom has always said. I agree, she is right, but the road that is not important or good will not be as rewarding. Working towards a goal must be exciting and fulfilling.
"Do you have to have a goal? " I often get asked this question. No, you don't have to have a goal. There is always a goal with the situation you are in, whether you think about it or not. The question is just in what resolution you can see it, frame it, define it and shape your attitude around it. Setting goals is really a way of choosing, defining and controlling. Goals provide what is not yet there, and define a clearer structure forward.
Goals can also give you energy and even better direction. Unclear goals make your behavior more random and often create more frustration than motivation. The goals act like walls to lean on when we have to choose, or when we are lost.
Without goals we grope. The brain loves to compete with itself and achieve small goals. The goals, in turn, become the milestones that give life meaning and structure, over time. Unfortunately, many of us are a little untrained in setting goals in a way that lifts our lives, but that is changing now.
How we set goals is crucial to getting the positive thoughts and feelings within us, or whether the goal in itself raises feelings of guilt or worry to the surface. You can figure out for yourself which of these inner states best promote success and health.
In order for a goal to be perceived as motivating and to stay on track over time, it should awaken your inner PEA (positive emotional attraction). These are the processors that bring joy and elation, a sense of curiosity and ability to influence. PEA boosts thoughts and processors about important values, desires, improvements and opportunities. It supports increased energy and focus.
When you have been given formulas in a way that don’t inspire you, when there are formulas as a requirement that describe what you should or must do, your NEA - negative emotional attractor, kick in instead, increasing the defensive processors. NEA focus the mind on possible problems, obstacles, difficulties and risks.